Figuratively speaking, your Why cannot be yelled out to from across the street.
It must be coaxed out from the shadows by a whisper, and without eye contact.
And as a result, it’s often not what we – or our ego – thinks it is.
Therefore, we need to employ some cunning techniques to cut to the core of what we really, truly want from our lives and the purpose within us.
I’m currently working on a Why Roadmap which I’ll be launching in the next couple of months. It will go through how to uncover your Why in detail, with step by step instructions and a worksheet to follow.
For now, I want to give you a sneak peek of one of the sections of the Roadmap – Questioning.
Never underestimate the power of asking questions.
One of my favorite personal development gurus Tony Robbins has the motto ‘ask better questions’ and this simple mantra has helped me creatively come up with solutions to complex problems in my life and guided many decisions.
So how do you use questions to uncover your Why?
These questions are designed to get an emotional response from you, and hence let your true feelings come to the surface – not just the ‘shoulds’.
I recommend writing these down in a journal or printing them out with enough space to write a few paragraphs for each.
Take your time. The power is in going slow and letting the ideas percolate.
Ready to get started? Here they are!
- What does your perfect day look like today? What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you eat? Where do you go?
- Imagine your dream life in 10 or 20 years time. Where do you live? What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you do?
- What activities do you say yes to without question?
- What activities do you hate doing and would never do again if you could?
- Do you have any recurring desires or themes that keep arising in your thoughts or dreams? What are they?
- What do you enjoy about your current job/career? What would you change if you could?
- If you won 10 million dollars tomorrow, what would you do? How would you spend the next year? The next 5 years? The next 10?
- What would you do with your life if you weren’t afraid that anyone would judge you, or criticize your decision?
- Imagine you are 90 years old, looking back on your life. What would you most regret not doing in your life? What achievement would you be most proud of?
- If you could leave one legacy after you die, what would it be? What would you like to be remembered for?
How did these questions make you feel?
Did any of your responses surprise you?
Go back and read through what you wrote and look for recurring themes. Is there an activity or career path that is mentioned more than once?
Do you notice any patterns? Patterns are often the gateway to our Why, and if a response makes you feel nervous to write or read back, then it’s a good sign you are on the right track.
But, we are just getting started.
There’s lots more to be done, but for now, keep thinking, keep dreaming and keep refining your responses.
Stay tuned over the coming weeks for the full roadmap – then, the real work begins!