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(Don’t) Do your best

They say that life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans, and last week this is exactly what happened to me. It was supposed to be a week of getting things done – the annoying little tasks on my to do list that had been put off for weeks because they were either extremely time consuming or extremely boring – or both. I’d declared it my ‘power week’ – a week of blasting through procrastination, of being productive and also making progress on the planning stages of our home renovation. It was going to be great and I…

My failed TV experiment 

I really wanted to be the kind of person who doesn’t own a TV. We are raising our kids without screens and I wanted to lessen the uphill challenge we face as parents in the Screen Age. That, and I’m a pretty obsessive minimalist. Letting go of the majority of our belongings over the last few years has been easy. Freeing. I’ve written before about how I’d be happy living in an empty house with little or no furniture and it’s honestly true. I crave the freedom of owning very little. And I owned nothing apart from clothes and a…

The regret of change

Buying our house in the country is the biggest emotional purchase we’ve ever made so it’s only natural to feel some trepidation right? Yes, we have invested in property before but it never felt that life-changing. This is much different. It’s ours. For a nomadic type this has been something to get my head around. Commitment. Gulp. Buying a home was my idea. It kind of crept up on me over the past year and I allowed the idea to permeate my consciousness instead of making up excuses as to why it wouldn’t work and quickly burying it – my…

On overwhelm

It’s been a hard couple of weeks in our house. I’ve discovered that a teething baby that’s learning how to walk and talk does not sleep well. It’s left me feeling overwhelmed from sleep deprivation, and without motivation to do much but lay on the couch and stare blankly at the wall. But I’ve also learnt something extremely valuable amongst all of the chaos these last few weeks. In addition to the dishes being left unwashed, toys not being put away and general “crap everywhere” situation, there’s been things to do. I mean there’s always things to do, but particularly…

The problem with goal setting

I love goal setting. LOVE it. Big picture thinking comes easily to me, and I could do it all day, every day. Dreaming big, imagining success and setting tasks for myself to achieve them is pure bliss. I’m learning however, that goal setting has a dark side. Setting goals and working towards them comes naturally, and helps move me towards a happier life, but it also feeds my perfectionism and tendency to burnout on everything that I do. I don’t like these things about myself, and I’d much rather bury them deep in my subconscious. But they are important to…